Being a bridesmaid is no easy job. Dedicating so much time and effort into the bridal party, bachelorette party, dress fittings, and everything else that’s needed to make the bride’s experience as great as possible, we sometimes forget what it really takes to be a bridesmaid. But unfortunately, that doesn’t mean every bridesmaid will always be on top of things. Sometimes you may be faced with some unnerving last-minute bridesmaid or groomsmen hang ups that have you feeling stressed out. Although we hope that you don’t come across any of these situations, here is how to deal with 5 common last-minute issues from your bridal party.
“Do we really need to start getting ready that early?”
On the day of your wedding, you want to be sure that you will not be stressed with time, even if some things don’t go exactly as planned. That’s why it makes sense to explore bridesmaids and bridal hairstyles ahead of time and to plan for the make up artist to arrive plenty of time before the wedding actually begins. If your bridesmaid is skeptical about the time allotted to getting ready, just assure her that it will be fun and well worth it. Let her know that it is important to you that everyone arrives according to the schedule, and that you would like her to do the same. Consider making an upbeat playlist and bringing along a few mimosas to keep you and all your girls excited!
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“I still need to get my dress altered…”
Oh, goodness, hearing this one from your bridesmaid is NO fun! Don’t go into full panic mode yet though, this isn’t a my-bridesmaid-is-ditching-me emergency. To assess how much of an issue it actually is, you first have to think of it in respect to how much time is left before your wedding date. With a week or more left until the big day, you’re still in the safe zone and she can still get her dress professionally altered. Make sure you or one of the other bridesmaids are checking up to make sure that she gets the work done before it’s too late. If this dilemma pops up several days before the wedding, have your bridesmaids find a trusted friend or family member to help address the most obvious dress concerns.
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“I’m not sure what time we’ll get to the wedding.”
This deserves an eye roll! (Just not in front of your bridal party…) With this one, we believe that honesty is the best policy. Be clear with your bridesmaid or groomsmen that you have created a schedule for your wedding date with all considerations in mind and would like it to be followed. It is a good idea to actually create an itinerary to e-mail out to all members of the bridal party. Be very specific about both timing and locations. It’s perfectly okay to be particular about the schedule you’ve created, keeping in mind that should leave extra time in case find yourself facing unexpected wedding day emergencies.
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“I can change after the reception, right?”
This question is fairly easy to deal with. Many brides decide that after the wedding reception, they want their bridesmaids (and themselves!) to be more comfortable, so they choose cute flats to change into after the reception. Other couples prefer their bridesmaids and groomsmen to stay in their wedding attire throughout the whole event. It is completely up to you if you want your bridal party changing after the reception—either way, just be honest!
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“So… there’s an open bar, right?”
Okay, so this one isn’t necessarily bad. Everyone loves an open bar at a wedding! The reason this question made the list of hang ups is because you want to be sure that your bridal party is first and foremost in the role of bridesmaids and groomsmen. If you are concerned that any of your best men or women may start to get out of hand with his or her drinking, ask a responsible and understanding friend to keep an eye out, especially before the ceremony. In the situation that you are faced with excessive drinking, suggest that the real partying starts at the after-party.Photo Credit: John Alexander Photography
You and your fiancé have been planning for your big day for a long time. You’ve taken into consideration scheduling, vendors, preparation, and so many other details! That’s why it’s perfectly okay to want to stick with your itinerary during the wedding weekend. Sometimes your bridesmaids and groomsmen might not completely understand the importance of staying on schedule, which is why it’s essential to take deep breaths when dealing with bridal party hang ups and follow these steps to answering every frustrating question.