The term “bridezilla” is so ubiquitous in the wedding world that there’s even an entire TV show dedicated to them. Most brides enter the wedding planning process thinking that they’ll never be as crazy as those women on TV, but the fact of the matter is that planning a wedding can be extremely stressful and cause many people to react in ways that they didn’t think possible. With all this in mind, there are a few things that you should never say to a bride right before her wedding. No matter how mild or innocent you think your comment may be, these are the worst possible things to say to a bride-to-be.
“Are you planning on losing weight?”
Weight is a sensitive subject in general, but when it’s associated with something as important as looking great on your wedding day, it’s a surefire way to anger your bride. What you’re implying is that she doesn’t look as good as she thinks she does, and that she should lose some more weight to fit into her gown.
“Can I bring a date?”
Unless you’ve organized a guest list, budget and seating chart of your own, you probably don’t realize how difficult it is to narrow down the list to those who matter most, then arrange them in a logical manner for the reception. Trust us, your bride-to-be didn’t include a plus one on your invite intentionally, and asking to bring a date last minute will only set her off on a rant.
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“You’re having an open bar, right?”
Asking about an open bar raises a red flag – it makes it sound like the only reason you’re attending is to take advantage of the free alcohol. It also makes it sound like you might overindulge in the open bar. If you really must know what the alcohol situation will be at the wedding, consider phrasing it in a different way. For example, asking if you should prepare to bring cash for a cash bar might be a better option.
“I hope you’re not planning on doing _____.”
No matter what you’ve filled the blank with, it’s typically not a good idea to make definitive statements like these, especially to a bride who has spent the past year of her life meticulously planning out every detail of her big day. Her wedding day is about what she and her partner like, not what you happen to dislike. Even if you think it’s harmless, it sets a negative tone by making her feel like you are judging her.
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“It’ll be fine.”
In our humble opinions, the worst possible thing you can say to a bride-to-be just before her wedding day is this short sentence. She most likely expressed some sort of complaint or worry to you, causing you to reassure her by saying everything will be fine. Unfortunately, your good intentions may be misconstrued as indifference or lack of interest – two things you don’t want her to think! If she’s stressing out about final details and organization, the last thing you should tell her to do is relax. Instead, listening to her is a better option – sometimes a girl just needs to vent.
When you’re talking to a bride-to-be in the days leading up to her wedding, keep in mind that everything she’s been planning is a result of a lot of time, thinking and effort. Your attitude and comments may seem lighthearted and innocuous to you, but for a bride-to-be who is constantly surrounded by stress and pressure, these types of comments and questions can make her feel anxious and unnerved. Instead, commend her on her wedding planning success so far. Remind her that wedding planning is a difficult process but she’s doing an excellent job handling herself. Finally, if you notice her stress levels skyrocketing, offer to help out to help alleviate some of the pressure.