A great wedding toast is short, specific, and kind. It keeps the couple at the center, shares one crowd-safe moment or observation, and ends with one clear wish and “cheers.” Use a simple structure, skip risky jokes, and keep it to 60–180 seconds so it lands well and the celebration keeps moving.
If your brain is spiraling because you have to toast in front of a room: breathe. You don’t need to be funny. You don’t need to be profound. You need one clean moment, two specific compliments, one wish, and a firm ending. Keep it warm, keep it room-safe, and keep it short.
Read This If You’re Speaking Soon
If you have 10 minutes, do these three things.
Quick Start Checklist (10 minutes)
- Text the couple (or planner/DJ) using the five questions below.
- Pick one structure: 60-second toast or 2-minute toast.
- Write your last line first (the “cheers” line), then build backward.
60-Second Toast Template (fastest)
- Who you are (1 sentence)
- One observation (1 sentence)
- One wish (1 sentence)
- Cheers (1 sentence)
Example (60 seconds):
“Hi everyone—I’m [Name], and I’m [relationship] to [Partner A/Partner B/the couple]. I love how you two stay on the same side, even when life gets busy. My wish is more of that—more patience, more laughter, and more time together. Please raise a glass—to [Partner A] and [Partner B]. Cheers!”
What to Ask the Couple First
Text these before you write. It prevents almost every avoidable misstep.
- What names should I use for each of you (and any pronunciation notes)?
- What tone do you want—funny, heartfelt, or a mix?
- Any off-limits topics (exes, family dynamics, money, past drama, sensitive jokes)?
- Should I mention anyone who can’t be here (including a loved one who passed), or skip it?
- What’s the toast order and time cap?
If you only ask two: ask off-limits topics and order/time cap.
“Do Not Say” List (Crowd-Safe Boundaries)
If it wouldn’t feel okay in front of grandparents, coworkers, and kids, cut it.
High-risk topics (skip entirely)
- Exes or dating history: pulls focus away from the couple’s present.
- Divorce or “ball and chain” jokes: lands dated and can feel mean.
- Private family conflict or finances: not your story to tell.
- Mental health or medical details: too personal for a toast.
Embarrassing stories (even if “everyone knows”)
- Heavy drinking, hookups, fights, illegal stuff: can sting later.
- “Worst moments” stories: laughs at someone’s expense.
Confusing humor
- Inside jokes with a long setup: the room can’t follow.
- Backhanded compliments (“I never thought you’d settle down…”): sounds like doubt.
- Ranking partners (“You’re lucky to have them”): undermines equality.
Common Mistake (Callout): Roasting the couple for laughs
Even gentle teasing can land wrong in a mixed crowd. If you want laughs, make them about universal things—nerves, wedding planning, teamwork, everyday life—and keep the couple as the heroes.
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Wedding Toast Formula (Use This and You’ll Be Fine)
The 5-Part Structure
Hook → Connection → Story → Couple → Wish/Toast
- Hook: Say who you are and why you’re up here.
- Connection: How you know one partner (or both).
- Story: One clean moment that shows who they are together (1–2 sentences).
- Couple: One specific compliment for each partner (or one about them as a team).
- Wish/Toast: One clear wish + “cheers,” then stop.
Fill-in-the-Blank Template
Hi everyone—I’m [Name]. I’m [your role/relationship], and I know [Partner A/Partner B/the couple] from [how].
One moment that captures you together is [short, crowd-safe story/observation].
What I admire is [specific compliment about Partner A as a partner], and [specific compliment about Partner B as a partner].
My wish for you is [one specific wish].
Please raise a glass—to [Partner A] and [Partner B]. Cheers!
Short Example (4–6 sentences)
Hi everyone—I’m Jordan, and I’ve known Alex since college. I’ve never seen Alex as settled as they are with Sam, in the best way. My favorite thing is how you two check in with each other—quietly, consistently—even when the room is loud. Alex, you show love by showing up. Sam, you show love by making space for what matters. My wish is more ordinary days that feel easy and shared. Please raise a glass—to Alex and Sam. Cheers!
Mini Delivery Checklist (So It Lands)
- Mic: Hold it 2–3 inches from your mouth and keep it there.
- Pacing: Start slower than feels natural; pause after your story.
- Eye contact: Look up once per sentence—three friendly faces is enough.
- Length: Aim for 60–180 seconds. If you’re long, cut the story in half.
- Finish: End with your toast line and stop—no add-ons.
Common Mistake (Callout): Ending without a clear toast
If you fade out, the room doesn’t know when to cheer. Say the wish, say “cheers,” then stop.
The Modern Wedding Speech Order (2026 Update)
A modern reception runs best when speeches feel like a short, planned moment—not an open mic.
The Default Order (Works for Most Receptions)
Default order (smooth + predictable):
- Welcome toast (parent/guardian, host, or MC)
- Best man
- Maid of honor
- Couple thank-you (optional)
Recommended caps
- Speakers: 2–4 total
- Length: 2–3 minutes each (60–90 seconds if there are more than 3 speakers)
Common Mistake (Callout): Too many speakers
More than 4–5 toasts often slows the night. Fewer speakers with tighter toasts feels more intentional and keeps energy up.
The Alternative Order (Best for Nervous Speakers)
Alternative order (honor attendants first):
- Best man
- Maid of honor
- Welcome toast (parent/guardian or host)
- Couple thank-you (optional)
MC Cue Script (Copy/Paste)
“Alright everyone, if I can have your attention—please raise a glass. We’ll start with a quick toast from [Name], then we’ll hear from [Name] and [Name]. We’ll keep each toast to about two minutes so we can get back to celebrating.”
Timing: When Toasts Usually Happen
Toasts usually land best during dinner, before dancing—guests are seated, attention is higher, and you’re not interrupting peak party time.
Simple timing plan
- After guests are seated / dinner begins: do the first 1–3 toasts.
- Before open dancing: finish any remaining planned toast(s).
- Avoid: right as food arrives (clatter + servers) or after the dance floor is packed (attention drops).
Mini Text to the Couple/Planner (Copy/Paste)
“Quick check: what time are toasts happening, and what’s the order? I’m aiming for ~2 minutes. Any off-limits topics or names I should use?”
Length Rules (With a “Keep It Moving” Cap)
| Toast type | Target length | Best for |
| One-liner toast | ~60 seconds | extra speakers, quick closers, very nervous speakers |
| Standard toast | 2–3 minutes | best man, maid of honor, parent/guardian welcome |
| Long toast (cap it) | 4–5 minutes max | one must-hear speaker with a tight script |
Quick timing test: read it out loud once. If you’re still talking after your wish, cut the story in half and end.
Order checklist
- Pick 2–4 speakers total.
- Choose one cue person (DJ/MC/planner).
- Lock one timing window (usually during dinner).
- Set a time cap and tell speakers upfront.
- Put the order in writing (run-of-show note).
- Ask speakers to end with: “Cheers to [Name] and [Name].”
30 Wedding Toast Examples by Role
Best Man Toasts
Best-man toasts land best when they’re warm, confident, and couple-centered.
Funny + warm
1) Funny + warm
Hi everyone—I’m [Name], the best man and longtime friend of [Partner A]. I’ve watched [Partner A] grow up a lot over the years, mostly because [Partner B] makes “being responsible” look strangely appealing. Together you make life lighter and better. Here’s to a marriage full of laughter, patience, and shared snacks—cheers!
2) Funny + warm
I was told to keep this toast short, so I’ll do what [Partner A] doesn’t always do: follow directions. [Partner B], thank you for loving my friend with kindness—and for laughing at their jokes even when they’re a little optimistic. You two fit in a way that feels easy and real. To [Partner A] and [Partner B]—cheers!
Heartfelt
3) Heartfelt
I’ve known [Partner A] through a lot of seasons, and I’ve never seen them as steady as they are with [Partner B]. The way you two support each other—especially on normal days—is what makes this love last. [Partner B], thank you for being such a safe place for my friend. To a lifetime of respect, warmth, and teamwork—cheers.
4) Heartfelt
When [Partner A] talks about [Partner B], it’s not just romance—it’s trust and admiration. That’s how you know it’s real. [Partner B], you bring out the most genuine version of my friend, and that’s a gift. Here’s to a marriage built on kindness, honesty, and steady joy—cheers!
Best friend energy
5) Best friend energy
Hi everyone—I’m [Name], and I’ve had a front-row seat to [Partner A]’s life for years. The simplest truth is that [Partner A] loves hard, and with [Partner B], that loyalty found a perfect partner. You two celebrate each other in a way that’s easy to root for. To the couple—may you keep choosing the same team, every day—cheers!
6) Best friend energy
I’ve seen [Partner A] make big plans, adjust the plans, and occasionally forget the plans—so it’s genuinely impressive they found [Partner B], someone who brings both calm and fun to the ride. Together, you make life feel more like a shared story and less like a scramble. [Partner B], we’re lucky you’re in the friend group. To [Partner A] and [Partner B]—cheers!
Short + nervous
7) Short + nervous
Hi everyone—I’m [Name], and I’m honored to toast [Partner A] and [Partner B]. I’m keeping this simple: the way you treat each other—with respect, patience, and real care—says everything. May your marriage be full of steady love and plenty of laughter. Cheers!
Maid of Honor Speeches
Maid-of-honor toasts are strongest when they feel personal without oversharing.
Sister or sibling
1) Sibling
Hi everyone—I’m [Name], [Partner A]’s sibling, and I’ve known them since the very beginning. I’ve watched [Partner A] grow into someone who loves with their whole heart—and with [Partner B], that love found a safe place to land. [Partner B], thank you for loving my sibling well. Here’s to a lifetime of being each other’s comfort and favorite person—cheers!
2) Sibling
As [Partner A]’s sibling, I’ve seen the real version of them—on great days and messy ones. What I admire about [Partner B] is how you meet [Partner A] with patience and respect, every time. You two bring out each other’s best qualities, and it’s a joy to witness. To [Partner A] and [Partner B]—may your love keep growing in all the right ways—cheers!
Best friend
3) Best friend
Hi, I’m [Name], [Partner A]’s best friend. I’ve watched [Partner A] figure out what mattered most—and then they met [Partner B], and the answer got clear. You two make life feel both brighter and calmer at the same time. Here’s to a marriage full of honesty, laughter, and choosing each other on purpose—cheers!
4) Best friend
I knew [Partner B] was important when [Partner A] started saying “we” without thinking. Not in a cheesy way—in a grounded, “this is my person” way. [Partner B], thank you for loving my friend with both gentleness and strength. To the couple: may your partnership feel steady, warm, and real—cheers!
Funny but not roast-y
5) Funny but kind
I promised [Partner A] I wouldn’t embarrass them, which is honestly a big request for a maid of honor. So I’ll keep it respectful: [Partner B], you have excellent taste and impressive patience. The way you two laugh together makes everyone else relax. Here’s to a lifetime of joy in the small moments—cheers!
6) Funny but kind
If you’ve spent five minutes with this couple, you’ve probably heard, “Okay, but hear me out…”—and somehow it turns into a great plan. You make teamwork look fun, not exhausting. May you keep building a life where love is practical, laughter is frequent, and you always have each other’s back. Cheers to [Partner A] and [Partner B]!
Last-minute / ultra short
7) Last-minute / ultra short
Hi everyone—I’m [Name], and I’m honored to toast [Partner A] and [Partner B]. You two bring out the best in each other, and it shows in how you move through life as a team. Here’s to a lifetime of joy, calm, and being on the same side. Cheers!
Parents/Guardians of the Couple
Parent/guardian toasts work best when they welcome the room, honor both partners, and stay simple.
Parent/guardian welcome
1) Welcome toast (parent/guardian)
Good evening, everyone—I’m [Name], a parent/guardian of [Partner A]. Thank you for being here and surrounding this couple with so much love. Seeing [Partner A] with [Partner B], I’m struck by how safe and understood you make each other feel. [Partner B], we’re grateful to welcome you into our family. To [Partner A] and [Partner B]—cheers!
2) Welcome toast (parent/guardian)
Hi everyone—I’m [Name]. Thank you to everyone who traveled, helped, and supported this day—your presence means a lot. One thing I’ve always admired about [Partner A] is how they care for people, and with [Partner B], that care is met with real steadiness. [Partner B], we’re proud to welcome you into the family. To a lifetime of love and partnership—cheers!
Parent/guardian with a short story
3) Short story
Hello everyone—I’m [Name], a parent/guardian of [Partner A]. I remember [Partner A] at the kitchen table talking about their dreams, and today I get to see them building a life with someone who listens and shows up. [Partner B], thank you for loving [Partner A] so well. To the newlyweds—cheers!
4) Short story
Good evening, and thank you all for being here—I’m [Name]. Watching [Partner A] and [Partner B], I notice how you speak to each other with care and how you handle life as a team. That kind of partnership is something to celebrate. [Partner B], welcome to our family—we’re genuinely happy you’re here. Cheers to a beautiful life together!
Parent/guardian of Partner B
5) Parent/guardian of Partner B
Hi everyone—I’m [Name], a parent/guardian of [Partner B], and we’re so glad you’re here. Thank you for supporting this couple and for helping today feel so full of love. [Partner A], it’s clear you cherish [Partner B], and we’re grateful for the way you two show up for each other. Welcome to the family, [Partner A]. To the couple—cheers!
6) Parent/guardian of Partner B
Good evening, everyone—I’m [Name]. Thank you to both families and all friends for being part of this day. [Partner A], one of my favorite things about you is how you encourage [Partner B] to be fully themselves. That’s love that lasts. We’re lucky to welcome you into our family. To a lifetime of respect, laughter, and partnership—cheers!
Warm + simple
7) Warm + simple
Hello everyone—I’m [Name], a parent/guardian of [Partner A]. Thank you for being here and for loving this couple so generously. Today, I’m most grateful for the way you two choose kindness with each other. [Partner B], welcome—this family is better with you in it. Cheers to [Partner A] and [Partner B]!
8) Warm + simple
Good evening, everyone, and thank you for joining us—I’m [Name]. Watching [Partner A] and [Partner B], I’m moved by how you listen, how you laugh, and how you respect each other. That’s the foundation of a good life together. [Partner B], welcome to our family. To the newlyweds—cheers!
The Couple’s Speech
Couple toasts are strongest when they’re short, grateful, and not a long list of names.
Joint thank-you
1) Joint thank-you
Hi everyone—thank you for being here with us. We feel lucky to have our families and friends in one room. Your support brought us here, and we don’t take it for granted. We love you—now let’s celebrate. Cheers!
2) Joint thank-you
Thank you all for showing up for us—whether you traveled, helped, checked in, or brought your good energy tonight. Thank you to everyone who helped today run smoothly behind the scenes. Most of all, thank you for loving us and being part of our lives. Here’s to a night we’ll never forget—cheers!
Individual mini-toast
3) Individual mini-toast (Partner A speaking)
Hi everyone—I’m [Partner A]. Thank you for being here and for supporting us. [Partner B], you’re my favorite person to do life with—thank you for choosing me with so much patience and joy. To everyone we love: thank you for helping us get here. Cheers!
4) Individual mini-toast (Partner B speaking)
Hi everyone—I’m [Partner B]. I’m grateful to look out and see so many people who shaped our lives and supported our relationship. [Partner A], you make me feel seen, safe, and excited about the future. Thank you for being our people—cheers to all of us, and to love that lasts.
Common Mistake (Callout): Turning this into an awards speech
If you start naming everyone, it gets long fast. Thank groups, keep it warm, and end cleanly.
Short Openers & Closers
Pick one opener and one closer. Clean and simple wins.
Openers
1) Opener
Hi everyone—I’m [Name], and I’m lucky to know [Partner A] and [Partner B]. If you’re wondering what love looks like in real life, it looks a lot like these two.
2) Opener
Good evening! I was asked to say a few words, and the simplest truth is this: you two make each other better, and you make the rest of us glad to be here.
Closers
3) Closer
Here’s to [Partner A] and [Partner B]—may you keep choosing each other with kindness, especially on the ordinary days. Cheers!
4) Closer
To the couple: may your life together be full of laughter, steady love, and a home that feels like your favorite place. Cheers!
How to Write Your Own Speech: A 4-Step Template
A toast is easier to write when you decide what each sentence needs to do.
The “Hook, Story, Toast” Method (Fill-in-the-Blank)
Hook → Story → Two compliments → Toast
Mini-template (Fill-in-the-blank script)
- Hook (1–2 sentences): Hi everyone, I’m [Name], and I know [Partner A/Partner B/the couple] from [how].
- Story (1–2 sentences): A moment that captures you is [simple, crowd-safe story/observation].
- Two compliments (1 sentence each): [Partner A] is the kind of partner who [specific trait]. [Partner B] is the kind of partner who [specific trait].
- Toast (1 sentence): My wish for you is [one specific wish]—please raise a glass to [Partner A] and [Partner B]. Cheers!
Concrete example (~60–90 seconds)
Hi everyone, I’m [Name], and I’ve known [Partner A] since [how/when]. A moment that captures you is how you turn a stressful day into a plan—together—and still find something to laugh about. [Partner A], you show love by being dependable. [Partner B], you show love by making space for what matters. My wish is that your marriage stays full of small kindnesses, honest conversations, and the kind of teamwork that makes life easier. Cheers to [Partner A] and [Partner B]!
Hook options (3)
- Simple + confident: “Hi everyone—I’m [Name], and I’m [relationship] to [Partner]. I’m honored to toast these two.”
- Warm + specific: “If you know [Partner A] and [Partner B], you know they make people feel included.”
- Nervous but steady: “I’m [Name]. I’m a little nervous, and I’m very grateful to celebrate [Partner A] and [Partner B] tonight.”
Story picker: 10 story prompts that work
- The first time you thought, “Oh, this is serious—in a good way.”
- A small habit that shows care (checking in, sharing credit, making room).
- A time they handled stress as a team.
- Something they do that makes people feel welcome.
- The best way they supported each other recently.
- A moment you saw them communicate well.
- A tradition they’ve built (Sunday coffee, walks, family dinners).
- How they’ve grown since meeting (calmer, braver, more themselves).
- A tiny moment that felt big (quiet support, thoughtful gesture).
- What you admire about the way they love (patience, humor, steadiness).
Toast lines: 10 closers that aren’t corny
- “Here’s to [Name] and [Name]—may you keep choosing each other with kindness.”
- “To a life that feels like home, wherever you are—cheers!”
- “May your hard days be shorter and your good days be shared—cheers!”
- “Here’s to steady love and lots of laughter—cheers to the newlyweds!”
- “To the couple—may you always be on the same team. Cheers!”
- “To [Name] and [Name]—more joy, more peace, more time together. Cheers!”
- “May you keep learning each other in the best ways—cheers!”
- “To a marriage built on respect and real friendship—cheers!”
- “Here’s to the next chapter—cheers to [Name] and [Name]!”
- “To love that’s practical, patient, and true—cheers!”
How-to Checklist (Write Your Toast Fast)
- Decide your tone: funny-but-safe or heartfelt.
- Write a two-sentence hook (who you are + why you care).
- Pick one story prompt and draft two sentences max.
- Add two compliments (specific beats generic).
- Choose one wish that fits them (peace, adventure, patience, laughter).
- Read it out loud and cut tangents.
- Time it and aim for 60–180 seconds.
- End with a clear cheers line and stop.
Common Mistake (Callout): Trying to include everything
One clean story + two specific compliments feels more real than a long summary of someone’s life.
Make It Land: The 3 Filters (Checklist)
- Clear: Would a guest meeting the couple today understand it without extra context?
- Kind: Does it protect the couple’s dignity and make them feel loved?
- For Everyone: Would it feel okay in front of grandparents, coworkers, and kids?
If a line fails a filter, rewrite or delete it.
What to Avoid (Quick Risk List)
- Exes, dating history, “before you met…” comparisons
- Heavy drinking stories, illegal stuff, personal drama
- Inside jokes with long setup
- Backhanded compliments
- Marriage-as-a-trap jokes
Delivery for Nervous Toasters (Practical, Not Cheesy)
Nerves are normal. The fix is simple: familiar words, slower pace, steady mic.
Practice Plan (15 minutes a day for 3 days)
- Day 1 (write + rough read): Read it once out loud. Cut any line you trip over. Circle the one sentence you most want to land.
- Day 2 (time + tighten): Time it and trim until it fits. Add two pauses: after your story and before “cheers.”
- Day 3 (final run + backup): Practice standing once. Practice once with notes. Do one cold run. Add a 30–45 second backup version at the bottom.
Before-You-Speak Checklist
- Open notes in big text with line breaks.
- Highlight your first and last line.
- Take two slow breaths before you begin.
- Pause after laughs or applause—don’t talk over it.
- Keep both feet planted and hold the mic steady.
- Look up at 3–5 friendly faces.
- Stop at your closer—no “one more thing.”
Common Mistake (Callout): Talking faster to “get it over with”
Fast speech makes nerves louder. Slow down one notch and let pauses do the work.
Mic + pacing + eye contact (The 5-Point Stage Checklist)
- Mic position: 2–3 inches from your mouth. Don’t drop it when you laugh.
- Pace: Start slower than feels natural.
- Pauses: Pause after your story and after laughs.
- Eye contact: One face per sentence; scan the room in sections.
- Body: Feet grounded, shoulders relaxed; no pacing required.
If You Cry / Shake / Blank (Recovery Scripts)
If you cry
- “Give me one second—I’m just really happy for you.”
- “Okay—deep breath. This is worth it.”
If you shake
- “I’m excited and my hands got the memo—thanks for your patience.”
- “I’m good—just need one breath.”
If you blank
- “I lost my place—thank you. My next line is the important part.”
- “I’m going to read the last few lines because I want to get it right.”
Safe landing closer (copy/paste)
“If I say nothing else, it’s this: [Partner A] and [Partner B], you make each other better. Please raise a glass—to a lifetime of love and teamwork. Cheers.”
Alcohol & inside jokes: the risk rules
- Limit drinks before speaking; celebrate after.
- Skip “you had to be there” stories unless the point lands in one sentence.
- Keep humor universal, not personal.
- If the laugh depends on embarrassment, cut it.
Wedding Toast FAQ
How long should a wedding toast be?
Aim for 2–3 minutes. If you’re nervous (or there are several speakers), 60–90 seconds is ideal.
Example line: “I’ll keep this short—what I love most about you two is how you show up for each other.”
How do you start a wedding toast?
Start with your name + relationship, then one sentence that centers the couple.
Example line: “Hi everyone—I’m Jordan, Alex’s cousin, and I’m grateful to celebrate Alex and Sam tonight.”
What should you include in a wedding toast?
Use: Opener → one clean story/observation → two specific compliments → one wish → cheers.
Example line: “One thing I’ve noticed is how you steady each other—my wish is more of that, for a long time.”
What should you avoid saying in a wedding speech?
Skip exes, private drama, heavy drinking stories, inside jokes with long setup, and anything embarrassing.
Example line: “There are a lot of stories I could tell, but tonight is about celebrating the best of you.”
What is the modern order of wedding speeches?
Keep it to 2–4 speakers. A common sequence is: welcome toast → best man → maid of honor → couple thank-you (optional).
Example line: “We’ll hear two quick toasts, then we’ll get back to celebrating—please raise a glass.”
When do wedding toasts usually happen at the reception?
Most couples do toasts during dinner, before dancing.
Example line: “Quick check—are toasts happening during dinner? I’m ready whenever you slot me in.”
Do you have to give a toast if you’re the best man or maid of honor?
Not always. Ask the couple—but keep a short version ready.
Example line: “I’m honored to stand with you—here’s to a lifetime of love, teamwork, and joy. Cheers!”
What if I don’t know one partner well?
Don’t fake closeness. Focus on what you’ve observed about them as a couple.
Example line: “I haven’t known [Partner B] long, but it’s clear how supported [Partner A] feels with you—and that says everything.”
Is it okay to read from notes?
Yes. Reading is better than rambling. Use large text and line breaks so you can look up often.
Example line: “I wrote this down because I want to say it right—thank you for letting me.”
How do you end a wedding toast without sounding cheesy?
End with one specific wish, say “cheers,” then stop.
Example line: “May your home be your favorite place and your hard days be short—cheers to [Partner A] and [Partner B]!”
How many toasts is too many?
More than 4–5 often slows the reception. Keep the list tight and choose confident speakers.
Example line: “We’re keeping toasts short and sweet—thanks for helping us keep the night moving.”
What if I’m nervous about crying or shaking?
Use one reset line, then go to a clean closer.
Example line: “Give me one second—I’m just really happy for you two.”
Safe closer: “If I say nothing else, it’s this: you two are a great team. Please raise a glass—to you both. Cheers.”
A wedding toast doesn’t need sparkle—it needs clarity, kindness, and a clean ending. Pick one structure, keep one story crowd-safe, give two specific compliments, and land the wish with “cheers.” If you want a quick next step: choose the example closest to your role, swap in one real detail, and read it out loud once before the reception.
