Wedding planning can turn even the nicest couple into frustrated and seemingly rabid individuals. Coordinating so many events with so many people means there are bound to be missteps, and even minor setbacks can be overwhelming when planning your special day. You might be a monster during the planning, but that attitude shouldn’t carry over to your wedding day. You’ve reached the critical moment, and it’s time to let go of any incidents and focus on why you’re there.
Keep a Calm Wedding Day Mindset
People may be fussy. They may tell you what to do and how to do it. Instead of seeing this as criticism, view it as them wanting to ensure that your day is as perfect as you want it to be. Your mother might be overflowing with advice, and you should listen since it’s likely that she’s done this before. You don’t have to do everything she says, but listening will make her feel valued. Keep in mind that this event symbolizes the fact that you will no longer turn to her for everything, so she may already be feeling cut out. Keep arguing to a minimum by listening, and if it gets overwhelming, tell her that you appreciate her insight and will take it on board, but you also need to have a part in things to stand on your own. Letting go is difficult for parents, and you can avoid a host of wedding day battles by being a little sympathetic to that.You may also have mix-ups in the kitchen or a mishap in the changing room, but instead of dwelling on the mistakes, think of how little they are in the scheme of things this day. If they aren’t minor problems, try to remain forward-thinking. You may even remember them when helping your own child go through their own wedding and be able to impart that wisdom of how you still got through the day and managed to say “I do.” When things don’t go as planned, keep in mind the end goal, and find ways to turn negatives into positives.
With anything that comes your way, remember that you’re here because you’re joining your life together with someone you love and cherish. As with marriage itself, the wedding day may have its hiccups, but you wouldn’t look over your entire relationship through the lens of a few stumbles, and you shouldn’t view your wedding day that way either. Focus on the good things about the wedding like your partner, your friends and family and your reason for gathering. It doesn’t matter if the flowers are more like vermilion when you specifically asked for crimson; it doesn’t matter if one guest gets a slightly bigger cutlet than another. You’re here to marry the love of your life, and that makes this your perfect day.